First of all, Alexis' mom has now earned the title of 'Heartless Bitch.' Just wait till you find out what she said to me! So, I'll admit, I shouldn't have been at her house while Kathleen wasn't there. That makes sense to me. So Kathleen found out and got mad. Understandable, since she already hates me. She could have told me that I can't see Alexis for two weeks and to never do it again, but no, she had to be a whole lot meaner than that. Alexis has told me plenty about her mom, and to be completely honest, it is not a good environment for the kids to be in. I could honestly call DCFS and get her kids taken away from her, but I don't want to do that to Caity and Jayde. Kathleen has be online dating, and even after promising her kids that she wouldn't take a stranger home, she did. She 'fell' for this guy from Oklahoma. He said that he was visiting his sister in Utah, and was wondering if he can meet her somewhere. Well, she invited him for dinner! After all that Alexis has been through. I could not believe how stupid and inconsiderate her mom was being. Alexis has been hurt by 'random men' that her mom has brought into the house. So, she was freaking out, and was scared for her life the entire day. She was able to get out of being there and left the house before he even got there. Luckily, the guy wasn't a duesche bag and didn't hurt anyone. But now, Kathleen was invited over for dinner and a movie at some guys house in Salt Lake. She told Alexis that she wasn't gonna go because it looked like a trap. Well, the next day, her mom changed her facebook status to, "I can't wait to go have dinner and a movie with him!" Kathleen is a cold-hearted bitch and needs to wake up out of her goddamn dream life and think about her kids.
On the other hand, she is also going to follow Alexis around wherever she goes to college. She's not going to let her go and let her spread her wings. She can't have her forever, and even if I'm not in the picture, she's going to have to let go sometime! What the hell is wrong with this woman? She has some serious bi-polar or manic depressive is issues.
Anyways, back to what she says about me/to me. The night she found out that I had been there, she called me. I saw the name on the front of my phone, "Kathleen." I was like, "Great! What does she want?" So I opened it up, and immediately started getting yelled at. She told me that I can't see Alexis for two weeks. Then, she said, "Alexis isn't going to break up with you, but I sure hope you do."
"Why?"
"Because all you do is stress her out. You are just ruining her life. Ever since you came into her life, she's been doing worse in school." Which isn't true. She was doing just as good if not better until Kathleen kicked me out. Ever since she kicked me out, Alexis has been cutting and losing all motivation to do anything.
"That's not true."
"Yes, it is. All you're going to do is knock her up and ruin her life. She's not going to have a career or anything because of you."
"Really? Did you really just say that? What, can people not change?"
"No! People don't change, Jorden. Why don't you go be a loser and ruin your life with the girl who had a miscarriage because of you!"
That's what really got to me. I could not believe my ears. We all make mistakes, and honestly, she's made a whole lot more mistakes than I could ever. But people can change. I have changed. I'm doing so much better than I have. She doesn't know me. She has no idea who I am. She's also trying to find out why I went to court so long ago. She's trying to tell Alexis before I do to try to turn her on me. This woman is fucked up. She needs a psych ward or something.
And on top of it all, she's constantly talking crap about me around Alexis. It's really hard on her. Really. How can you love someone when he's being talked about so rudely everyday? She's getting tired of it, and is out of the house in December, when she turns 18. I just can't believe that she is still with me. Through everything her mom has done and said, she still wants me. I don't know how I deserve such a wonderful girlfriend. I love her to death.
Thanks for listening. I'm sorry to burden you with my problems.
Hang in there Jorden. Shit happens, especially with parents. If you and Alexis hang in there, and keep loving each other, you just might make it. There's only so much you can do, but I believe that if you do your best, good will come of it.
ReplyDeleteThat was a low blow with what she said about Julia, it really was. Hmm, maybe your girl can come get an apartment with me lol.
ReplyDeleteRelationships are a lot harder to make work when the parents aren't into it. If Alexis's mom hates you, it's going to suck, and stay sucky until Alexis is ready and able to put her Mom outside her life and become her own person, despite how clingy her mother can/will be.
Good luck, and I mean that sincerely. I know what it's like to deal with bitch-ass parents, lemme tell you ;) Love ya